Self Evaluation: Personal Consistency Tip

From Persona Knowledge Outreach

Every situation benefits from consistency. Your family, friends, and associates will trust you implicitly if you have a perfect track record in trustworthiness. People will lend you money if they know you'll repay. Try to maintain a regular persona.

Don't be afraid of being branded "boring" or "conservative" (in fact, your image can be quite bizarre as long as you are consistent). In the end, people will know they can rely on you. Your potential relationships with strangers will benefit from the references of your friends. Your new employer may also want personal references to find out how reliable you are.

Only consistent, long-term application of your established persona will guarantee you a trust bond with those who matter to you.

http://www.personako.com/personalconsistencytip.html

Self Evaluation: Why You Need To Store Your Mistakes

I've said this before, but it bears repeating. Store thine mistakes. Let me tell you how deleting your mistakes is about the biggest time waster ever.

I made a presentation in San Francisco last late last year. The presentation went well. Yet I knew that I could do so much better. If I were torate myself, I'd give myself a 4 on a total of 10.

A week later, I made the same presentation in Chicago. And the presentation went like a charm. I was struggling with a bad coughand cold and a bit of exhaustion. Yet the presentation was easily one of the best I've ever made.

And if you know me well, you'll know that I record every thing. Soboth presentations were well and truly recorded for posterity.Perhaps for sale :). What would you do with the not-so good presentation? You'd delete it, wouldn't you?

I wouldn't if I were you. You see I'm going to put both the presentations together on two CDs. One will be the not-so good presentation. The next one CD will contain the good presentation.And the transcripts to follow will indicate why one presentation turned out so much better than the other.

The trick is in remembering that everything, yes everything you do has immense value. It's easy to forget this powerful principle and erase your mistakes. Quickly cover your tracks and hope no one notices.

Nah. Don't do that. Store thine mistakes. Mistakes are mo*ney inthe bank.

By-Sean D'Souza- Brain Auditor :)

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Feedback: Receiving feedback with head and heart

Receiving feedback with head and heart
Sue Knight

1. Assume the belief that - 'All feedback is learning'. Fully step into this or assume it if you don't believe it already

2. Check that you are in a state of rapport with the giver of the feedback throughout. If at any time you are not then take action to regain that state of rapport. If necessary elegantly adopt a similar body posture to theirs.

3. If you suspect that your emotions may get the better of you then step outside of yourself in your thinking so that you are watching and hearing yourself as if you are your own observer. (however it ultimately more powerful if you can stay engaged with your emotions to let the feedback in so this advice is as a first step to being able to do this)

4. Create a state (remember a time when you have done this) in yourself where you are open - head and heart - to what is being offered to you.

5. Step into the other person's shoes at some point as they are giving the feedback to you in order to understand how they feel and to get a full perception of what they are saying to you. Come back into your own shoes to let the feedback in to your head and heart.

6. Check your understanding of what the person is saying to you whether you think you understand or not. Do this until you can see, hear and feel what they are telling you. Imagine what it means to have taken the feedback and to have acted on it. Imagine how that enhances your qualities as a leader. Sound this future scenario out with the giver as a way of testing your understanding further

7. Finally thank them for giving you the feedback in a way that will encourage them to give you more in the future

8. Act on it

9. Let the giver of the feedback know when you have acted on it and what benefits you have experienced.

10. Be thankful that others want and do give you feedback and be aware of how that if feedback in itself.

http://www.sueknight.co.uk/Publications/hints&tips/hint003.htm

Feedback: How to be aware of when you are NOT receiving feedback

How to be aware of when you are NOT receiving feedback
Sue Knight

Notice when you are
1. Defending yourself
2. Explaining yourself
3. Rationalising away the feedback
4. Ignoring it
5. Pretending you don't understand it
6. Diverting the conversation on to anything other than open acceptance of it
7. Attacking back with something like 'well you do that too!'
8. Saying 'Yes I know'
9. Saying (or thinking) 'well other people don't say that/say differently'
10Hearing it but doing nothing with it
11. Feeling hurt

This list was adapted from the Manual of Leadership Exercises - NLP and Leadership by Sue Knight published by Peter Honey and available mid May 2000

http://www.sueknight.co.uk/Publications/hints&tips/hint004.htm

Self Modelling

If you know how you get yourself stressed then you could do it with even greater skill unless you would like some new choices!

Self modelling i.e. making yourself consciously aware of what you so often take for granted with what you do unconsciously is a means of building consistency into the results that you achieve. If for example you know how you make that outstanding sale then you can reproduce it. If you know how you put over your points persuasively then you can have consistency in the way that you do it in the future. Similarly if you know how you get yourself stressed then you could do it with even greater skill unless you would like some new choices! If you know how you get yourself depressed once again you could do it to order or you could begin to change the pattern.

Modelling is at the heart of NLP

Modelling is at the heart of NLP. Most successful people model naturally. They know what they do that works and they repeat that success. Watch a top athlete or sportsperson preparing themselves to compete; they will have a sequence of behaviours and thoughts that they use because they know it is what gets them into the state they need to play well. Have you ever seen the All Blacks at the start of a match. No doubt about what works for them!

by Sue Knight
For the complete Article: http://www.sueknight.co.uk/Publications/Articles/Resources.htm